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Why Terrorist Tactics Employed by Batterers Are Not “Parental Alienation Syndrome”

In Dr. Richard Gardner, DSM-V, Parental Alienation, Parental Alienation Disorder, Parental Alienation Disorders, Parental Alienation Syndrome on March 29, 2010 at 11:22 pm

From the Leadership Council:

Domestic Violence (DV) by Proxy:
Why Terrorist Tactics Employed by Batterers Are Not “PAS”

As more and more abused women lose custody to batterers in family courts, they are wrongly embracing the very ideas that enabled their abusers to gain custody in the first place. False accusations of “parental alienation” are often used by batterers to gain custody and to defend against accusations of abuse.

Some unfortunate women after years of enduring domestic violence have lost custody to the batterers who abused them. In these cases, batterers have made good on their threat to attack their ex-partner in the place she is the most vulnerable—by taking her children away from her. After separation, these batterers continue to wage their campaign of manipulation and abuse by attempting to convince involved children that their mothers never loved them. Looking for a way to describe their batterers’ behavior, some mothers have called what their batterer is doing “parental alienation syndrome.”

In reality, what these women are describing from their ex-partners is better termed Domestic Violence by Proxy (DV by Proxy), a term first used by Alina Patterson, author of Health and Healing. DV by Proxy refers to a pattern of behavior which is a parent with a history of using domestic violence or intimidation, uses a child as a substitute when he no longer has access to his former partner. Calling this behavior “parental alienation” is not strong enough to convey the criminal pattern of terroristic behaviors employed by batterers.

When his victim leaves him, batterers often recognize that the most expedient way to continue to hurt his partner is to assert his legal rights to control her access to their children. By gaining control of the children, an abusive male now has a powerful tool which allows him to continue to stalk, harass and batter an ex-partner even when he has no direct access to her. Moreover, by emotionally torturing the child and severing the bond between children and their mother, he is able to hurt his intended victim — the mother — in a way she cannot resist.

DV by Proxy includes tactics such as: threats of harm to children if they display a positive bond to the mother, destroying favored possessions given by the mother, and emotional torture (for example, telling the child the mother hates them, wanted an abortion, and is not coming to get them because they are unloved).

DV by Proxy may also include coaching the child to make false allegations regarding their mother’s behavior and harming or punishing the child for not complying. DV by Proxy perpetrators may also create fraudulent documents to defraud the court in order to prevent the mother from gaining custody. Whether or not the child is biologically related to them is irrelevant to perpetrators of DV by Proxy. The perpetrator’s main motivation is to hurt his ex; whether or not his own child is harmed in the process is irrelevant to him.

This is very different from “parental alienation syndrome” as described by the late Richard A. Gardner. Dr. Gardner described PAS as an internal process by which a child aligns themselves with a preferred parent to protect themselves from the divorce conflict. “PAS” is conceptualized as a psychological process of identification with a parent who, according to the theory, encourages this identification at the expense of the other parent.

PAS inducing parents, according to Gardner, are often unconscious of what they are doing to encourage the identification. In contrast, perpetrators of DV by Proxy are very conscious of what they are doing. Controlling, coercive, illegal acts often done by abusive and controlling people, usually men, are not subtle, and do not encourage an identification with a parent. Criminal, fraudulent, coercive acts are visible and obvious. These behaviors encourage compliance by threats and fear. Behaviors involved in DV by Proxy are deliberate and often illegal. These behaviors include: battery, destruction of property, locking children in rooms to prevent them from calling parents, falsifying documents, along with other similar overt behaviors.

The most dangerous aspect of Gardner’s PAS theory is that that the alienating parent’s behavior is theorized to be so subtle as to be unobservable. In other words, the behaviors that are supposed to cause the alienation are assumed to be happening without any proof that they have actually occured. As many women have discovered this makes a charge of “alienation” almost impossible to defend against.

While Gardner’s theories regarding PAS have been shown to be overly general and have not been supported by careful research, behaviors seen in DV by Proxy can be readily observed. Behaviors involved in DV by Proxy are deliberate and planned; many are illegal, and if the child is given the freedom to talk, will be described in great detail by the child.

If the child’s formerly favorable view of the victimized parent changes when exposed to tactics like this over time then it is more likely a form of “Stockholm Syndrome” or traumatic attachment to the abuser, rather than the alignment with one parent and negative reaction to the other that Gardner described as “alienation”.

A recent and comprehensive article on PAS and its use in the court system, by Jennifer Hoult can be downloaded here.

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Once Again, So-Called Parental Alienation Syndrome is Used to Excuse Alleged Child Sexual Abuse

In Dr. Richard Gardner, DSM-V, Ernie Allen, NCMEC, Parental Alienation, Parental Alienation Disorder, Parental Alienation Disorders, Parental Alienation Syndrome on March 27, 2010 at 3:33 pm

Her mother, Wendy Hill, sits in jail….gee, it doesn’t take a rocket scientist to figure out that nobody wants to be “reunited” with a parent who stuck your mother in jail. Especially when she was trying to protect you from CHILD SEXUAL ABUSE. Again, the father’s rights folks are marching out “parental alienation syndrome” as an excuse to cover up the allegations and stop the girl from having a voice.  Ernie Allen of NCMEC brings money to his organization with each claim explaining child separation (even wrongly so).  This is why the National Council of Juvenile and Family Court Judges warned judges again accepting claims of so-called “parental alienation syndrome” and “parental alienation.” From ABC News:

Exclusive: Jessica Click-Hill, Found after 14 Years, Says She Is Still Hiding From Dad

Jessica Click-Hill Denies She Was Brainwashed By Mom, Accuses Dad of Molesting Her

By MARY KATHRYN BURKE, March 26, 2010

The 22-year-old woman who refuses to see her father after hiding from him since the age of 8 says she is still in hiding, afraid that her father “is going to find me and show up on my doorstep.”

Jessica Click-Hill, Missing for 14 Years, Found 'Alive and Well'

After a 14-year search for his daughter, Dean Click finally knows that she is alive and safe. That her mother, Wendy Hill, is the sole suspect in their daughter’s alleged abduction came as little surprise to Click.

(Courtesy Dean Click)

Jessica Click-Hill was found last month and her mother Wendy Hill was arrested after 14 years of moving frequently and living under aliases.

She and her mother went on the lam after Jessica’s father, Dean Click, won a court battle to share custody of the then little girl.

Since her discovery early this month, Jessica has refused to meet her father, prompting him to claim that Jessica has been brainwashed by her mother.

Jessica, who has changed her name to elude any attempt by her father to find her, talked exclusively to ABC News denying her father’s claims.

“I have woken up screaming a couple times,” Jessica stated. “I’ve not been brainwashed. I was there for everything that happened. I could go into vivid detail. They were nauseating and horrific acts.

“I am truly scared of him. I don’t want him in my life. I don’t want his letters. I am scared he is going to find me and show up on my doorstep,” she told ABC News in an email statement following several conversations.

Jessica admitted that the constant moves to stay underground were difficult on a young girl, but said she felt the justice system was not doing enough to keep her father away from her.

“My childhood was happy, despite moving quite a bit,” Jessica said. “I attended one high school. I’m now 22 and was married last year. I would describe myself as a geek, because I love video games. I would love to go to an art institute to study video-game art and design.”

“I tried to tell people. No one other than my family would listen to me that this was going on,” she said.

Jessica Click-Hill claims her father began molesting her at the age of 2.

Jessica is hoping to tell her version of what happened to her. “I’ve spent all these years hoping that my story could be told. Now that I’m an adult, I can stop feeling like a child no one cared to listen to,” she said.

Jessica said she will continue to stand by her mother. “It saddens me that my mother… is being portrayed as a kidnapper. She had nothing else in mind than to keep me from the monster that is my father,” she said.

Pam Davis, Dean Click’s lawyer, told ABC News that he is “saddened” not to see his daughter. Davis added that at the time of the allegations, there was never enough evidence to charge Click. She said that he took a voluntary polygraph indicating he was not guilty of any abuse.

“His only concern is not about himself but about the possibility of meeting his daughter someday,” Davis said. “He really loves his daughter.”

Enormously Complicated

Ernie Allen, of the National Center for Missing and Exploited Children, declined to speak specifically about Jessica’s case. He said, however, the group often encounters situations where a young person has been lied to by a parent.

“It is enormously complicated,” Allen said. “A lot of these reunification scenarios are not ‘happily ever after’ and a lot of the time the child wants nothing to do with the other parent for a host of reasons.”

“It’s been referred to as ‘Parental Alienation Syndrome,’” Allen added. “The premise from the abducting parent is ‘I am doing this for you – to save you – to protect you.’ The children in these scenarios are very young and you have to believe in the rule of law. We pursued the search for Jessica for all these years because there was a felony warrant out for her mother’s arrest.”

Allen said that although Jessica does not want to see her father, the NCMEC succeeded in that it gave her father the information he had been seeking, the knowledge that Jessica was alive and well.

“Her father now knows she is ok and where she is,” Allen said. “Reunification in parental abduction cases is a very difficult challenge. In 80 percent of these cases the motivation for the abduction is anger or revenge for the other spouse. That doesn’t mean that in some cases the abduction parent doesn’t have real concern or sometimes feel they have no other choice. But judges every day in cases like this one are asked to play Solomon. Obviously, the judge in this case did not find any proof of the allegation. Our focus is on finding the child.”

California Court Whore Janelle Burrill Has Her Board Certification Revoked

In Janelle Burrill, Parental Alienation, Parental Alienation Disorder, Parental Alienation Disorders, Parental Alienation Syndrome on March 26, 2010 at 3:22 pm


It is always a pleasure seeing another Court Whore who uses “Parental Alienation Syndrome” to facilitate taking children and giving them to abusers get discovered for their fraudulent activities.

Janelle Burrill, of Sacramento, California, who was featured in “Mothers, Interrupted,” was notified on March 18th that she had her board certification revoked by the American Board of Examiners in Clinical Social Work.  This was primarily because of her victims coming forward and filing complaints to the Board.  Burrill has worked very hard to shut them up too…she had the Sacramento Press gagged as well as myself and a couple other bloggers for publishing an article written by Sharon Wall, a California grandmother whose granddaughter was taken and given to her daughter’s abuser.  Burrill fraudulently infiltrated the Victims of Janelle Burrill Support Group, claiming herself to be a victim too, then gathered names of victims to punish in court, charging them with “frustration of the process,” her own made-up legal term.  If she lied to get into the support group, what else is she lying about?

The support group continues their work and she has plenty in store yet.  Several California agencies are investigating Burrill’s activites, and it may not be much longer before we see her in handcuffs.

Parental Alienation Syndrome: The Task to Combat Psychiatric Coersion is Important

In Dr. Richard Gardner, DSM-V, Parental Alienation, Parental Alienation Disorder, Parental Alienation Disorders, Parental Alienation Syndrome on March 25, 2010 at 10:00 pm

“Labeling a child as mentally ill is stigmatization, not diagnosis.”

“Giving a child a psychiatric drug is poisoning, not treatment.”

Criminal Rewards: The Impact of Parental Alienation Syndrome on Families

In Dr. Richard Gardner, DSM-V, Parental Alienation, Parental Alienation Disorder, Parental Alienation Disorders, Parental Alienation Syndrome on March 6, 2010 at 1:59 am

Here is an excerpt:

Since 1985, the claim of parent alienation syndrome (PAS) has represented the extreme collusion of male entitlement, the mental health profession, and family courts. PAS is a pseudoscientific theory used to prevent battered women from protecting their children from exposure to violent and abusive fathers. It asserts that children who resist parents’ visits are not legitimately seeking protection from their fathers but have been “alienated” from their fathers by their mothers. This article examines the impact of PAS on families, its admissibility in courts, and the role of social workers and other mental health practitioners in custody cases through the lens of a social worker, a social justice activist, and a mother who is involved in a PAS custody case.

To view the entire article, “Criminal Rewards: The Impact of Parental Alienation Syndrome on Families” by Andrae L. Brown,  please click here.  It is very good…it should be required reading for all family court judges.